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7 Scientifically-Proven Ways to Have the Best Sex on Valentine&#39;s Day

Valentine's Day is coming so what can you do to make sure that the sex you have that day is mindblowing I'm Dr Reena Malik your urologist and pelvic surgeon and today we're going to talk about seven ways based in science that can help you have the best sex on Valentine's Day now Valentine's Day is one of the most common days that couples have sex now the studies that have shown somewhere around 60% of people who are surveyed are often saying that Valentine's Day is one of the most popular days that people have sex now other popular days can be your birthday your partner's birthday or other special occasions but Valentine's Day nearly tops the list now we want to make sure that sex is going to be special on Valentine's Day so what can you do to make sure that happens number one have sex before dinner and drinks when you eat food your body then has to digest that food and it goes into a special mode of resting and digesting which is not what needs to be activated when you want to have sex also it increases blood flow to those areas of the body that need to digest the food which means there's less blood flow for the areas that need the blood flow to get aroused also whiskey dick is a real thing if you drink too much alcohol you can have difficulty getting an erection now this has nothing to do with your ability to get an erection normally but certainly if you drink too much it can make it more difficult to get an erection and subsequently penetrate and have vaginal intercourse number two introduce novelty now this is particularly important if you are in a long-term relationship because just like anything else the brain gets excited with new things with novelty so sometimes you can find that sex becomes a little boring when you're doing it the same way every single time and you're not changing it up so think about ways that you can make it a little bit more exciting this is very individual based on you and your partner but it could be as simple as doing in a new location or trying roleplay or just trying a new position and this can make things just a little bit more exciting and a little more fun and end up in stronger and more intense orgasms number three do something to de-stress during the day now stress in your body increases cortisol which then decreases your sex hormones which can make it less likely that you can get desire for sex and stress is a big negative inhibitor of all sexual functions because your brain is the biggest organ for sex so when it's stressed out it can't focus and be mindful and present to enjoy sex so if you can do something that helps you and your partner relax that's why very often people will say get a massage with your partner because that allows you to completely relax and let go of tons of stress now if you're not into massages don't worry that you can decide what you and your partner like to do that helps you de-stress it could be doing a puzzle together or meditating together or just simply having a conversation that is not related to work or kids or parenting or anything else that might be stressing you out and this leads us to the next thing which is get physical together now of course I'm not talking about physical like sex being physical but getting your exercise on this leads us to number four which is a thing that can lead to decrease in stress but also has added benefits and that is be physical together now I'm not talking about being physical like being physical in the bedroom of course that's the end goal here is being intimate with your partner but you can actually do something like exercising together and the reason this works is activates the sympathetic nervous system which then may increase arousal in the genitals as well as desire and this is because you're getting increased blood flow to those areas now think about when you're exercising your heart rate goes up you're breathing a little faster and all of these things are exactly what happens when you're aroused or turned on and so exercise can actually prepare you for sexual arousal additionally exercise releases tons of feel-good hormones or endorphins and it can also increase the level of sex hormones particular testosterone which is integral in desire and of course it leads to reduction of stress so win-win exercise together get hot and sweaty before you get hot and sweaty together later leading us to number five ask your partner for what they want so if your partner doesn't know what turns you on or you might want to try something different open your mouth and tell them what you want because if you don't tell them they're not going to know and they're not going to know how to turn you on and there is nothing nothing more sexy than someone who's confident enough to tell you what they want so make sure you tell them and you ask them what they want because of course communicate more pleasure and getting more orgasms number six is related to the fact that Valentine's Day is sort of a big day and it can lead to you feeling a lot of pressure for things to go perfectly now the next one is sort of counterintuitive but make sure that sex is not mandatory now you can imagine that for some people Valentine's Day planning can get a little stressful and if they know that they have to have sex that day they may be worried if the sex is going to be good enough or they're going to perform well enough and that anxiety can make it difficult to perform or react the way that you normally want to because you're not focused on the pleasure at hand or being mindful with what's going on during the sexual experience but you're thinking about oh my God God is this going to work out okay is he or she enjoying it am I performing well enough is this good enough and that is just not going to allow you to enjoy the experience maybe not reach climax or perform and get an erection if you're a man so ultimately take the pressure off focus on being intimate having a great time and make sure that if something goes wrong it's okay you move on you find another way to feel good about yourselves and pleasure each other because there are multitude of different ways that you can achieve pleasure and they don't always include penetrative vaginal sex now lastly number seven make sure to get good sleep up to Valentine's Day now this is really important because one obviously if you're tired and exhausted you're not going to be in the mood for sex but even more so sleep is correlated very strongly with elevated sex hormones so if you're not getting good sleep your testosterone is going to drop drop and if your testosterone drops you're not going to be feeling the desire to be intimate or have sex with your partner so make sure that you're getting good quality sleep at least 7 hours every night up until Valentine's Day so that you can be in your best having the highest testosterone and having the most desire and interest in having sex which will then ultimately make things a lot more fun and more enjoyable all right guys if you have some tips on how to improve sex on Valentine's Day make sure to leave them in the comments below so that people can read and check out exactly what you've done that's worked for you I have some big news we are expanding our Clinic to Beverly Hills so if you are located in the Los Angeles area or coming to the Los Angeles area please feel free to make an appointment

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