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Can Sleeping in Separate Beds Save Your Sex Life?

does your partner keep you up all night but not in a good way i'm dr rita malek urologist and pelvic surgeon and today we're going to talk about the benefits and maybe even the negatives of sleeping in bed with your partner and how sometimes sleeping in separate beds might actually be a good thing these days more and more people are undergoing what's called a sleep divorce now what exactly is that that's when partners choose to sleep in separate beds at night that doesn't mean that they're not having sexual relationships it's just that they choose to sleep in either different beds in different rooms or in different beds in the same room in may of 2020 a company called eachnight.com surveyed over a thousand u.s adults to find out exactly what their sleep habits were interestingly of these thousand people three-fourths or 75 percent said that they were having poor sleep quality because of their partner over 40 said it was because they were on different sleep schedules 36 was because they felt that their partner moves too much at night 15 said they're bothered by their partner looking at their electronic devices five percent can't sleep because their partners have sleep disorders and three percent say their partner snores too much of these people who said they have problems sleeping because of their partner over half of them have less sex and more fights with their partner also in this group sometimes people are even going as far as getting real divorces from their partners because of this problem in sleep and women are twice as more likely to be in that category and interestingly this is what we see in the data as well men are less lucky to have sleep disruptions from their female partners whereas women are more likely to be bothered or have their sleep disrupted due to their male partners sleeping habits so what i took away from this is that sleeping in a separate bed for some people can actually lead to better sex and what are reasons that sex and sleep are interconnected number one is because sleep and sex happen most often in the same location obviously not all the time but most people have sex in their bedrooms and so if you're having problems in one area like sleep for example that can lead to problems in other areas like sex number two is because stress causes both problems with sleeping as well as problems with sex and they're very interrelated in that way third is there are some relationships with sleep problems specifically associated with sexual dysfunction and so in men specifically things like obstructive sleep apnea have been linked to erectile dysfunction so in these men if they treat their sleep apnea they can actually have improvements in erectile function in women it's also seen that there's more often sexual dysfunction after menopause and also there are correlated sleep problems it's important though if you are having trouble sleeping with your partner to make sure that the partner doesn't have issues like obstructive sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome that can be treated and the reason to even try to fix this problem before getting a sleep divorce is because there are certainly benefits to sharing a bed with your partner alright so if you missed my last video on sleep and the benefits of sleep and why sleep is probably a really important thing that we're not doing enough of please make sure you check those out sleeping in bed with your partner has consistently shown in the scientific literature to lead to better sleep quality and even overall better mental health even reduces the risk of having things like obstructive sleep apnea or insomnia when you share a bed with your partner in fact some studies have shown that when you're in a relationship with someone and they are a steady partner your sleep quality improves even compared to being single or having a casual partner and interestingly it can make you fall asleep faster up to 10 minutes faster than people who don't share a bed with their partner so falling asleep faster or shorter sleep latencies have been found to be associated with greater lengths of rem sleep and rem sleep is super important for memory and learning so the more rem sleep you get the more you're going to be able to learn and and soak up knowledge the next day also it leads to more emotional satisfaction and more frequent orgasms so people who are getting better sleep are probably more sexually active and having better orgasms because they're more rested and able to focus on sexual activity bottom line if you're not bothered by your partner and you're getting good quality sleep stay in the same bed as them but if it's disrupting your sleep quality and you're waking up really tired and you're doing everything else right that i've talked about in my videos about improving your sleep and you're still having issues because your partner keeps waking you up one make sure your partner gets checked out for any medical problems like obstructive sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome and if you've tried all that and you still can't get your bed situation to work for you then having a sleep divorce may actually improve your sex life and improve your overall quality of life as always if you are enjoying what you're learning make sure you subscribe share this channel with your friends make sure you tag me so i can see what you're doing i love seeing what you guys are watching and learning from my videos and as always i'm gonna take care of yourself because you're worth it [Music] [Applause] [Music] you

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