open to experimentation now what exactly does that mean one is be open to masturbating be open to each other masturbating and learning from masturbation so masturbation can be a great way to explore your body and figure out what you like and what you don't like and so don't take it as oh they're finding pleasure by themselves I'm gonna be replaced it's more about hey this is great my partner is finding pleasure and able to communicate that with me and certainly in relationships where there's a mismatched libido meaning somebody's really wanting to have sex a lot and someone's having less masturbation is a great way to kind of equalize that so that you are able to get pleasure from yourself and from your partner at different times