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How Vibrators Can Improve Your Sex Life, According To A Urologist

have you ever used a vibrator do you use one with your partner I'm Dr Rena Malik urologist and pelvic surgeon and today I'm going to talk all about fibular use why do people use them do men like that their Partners use them and how do people incorporate them in their relationships so in general when you've looked at the data about 50 to 80 percent of women use vibrators and most often they're using them because they're curious or they want to increase their pleasure conversely only about 42 percent of heterosexual men are using vibrators and most often they're using them for their Partners to improve foreplay or during intercourse and primarily to improve their pleasure and help their partner achieve orgasm now this is actually much higher than the rates that we've seen in the early 90s in a study back then they found about one-fifth of men between the ages of 18 and 59 actually found the idea of using any sort of sex toy whether it's a vibrator or dildo appealing and only two percent report that they actually purchased something like that in the last 12 months so generally speaking I think a lot of people worry that men might feel like they're threatened by their partner's vibratories but when looking at the data about 88 percent of people found that men were enthusiastic about their partner's use of sex toys and only 10 percent really felt negatively about it or unenthusiastic so one study looked at the perception of women on their vibrator use so in this study they took what's called a nationally representative sample what that means is they use these specialized survey companies that can survey people that match the demographics of the United States population they surveyed over 2 000 women in this study these women were asked all about their use of vibrators as well as non-virating dildos in their past month in the past year and during their lifetime they also kind of asked when they were using these vibrators did they use them with a partner they were then broken down into two categories every user is being they have ever used some sort of sexual toy and never uses those who have never use them they also asked a lot of questions how they got the vibrators what their level of comfort was and how their partner felt about it women reporting masturbating at least once in the last four weeks it was about half and there was a really small subset of lesbian and bisexual women and the majority of them had masturbated in the past month in terms of using a vibrator 51 of heterosexual women used it and the rates of use in lesbian and bisexual women were significantly higher in the 70 to 79 percent range in terms of using a non-vibrating dildo about a third of women used a dildo for sexual stimulation now how did they get these sex AIDS most often they purchased it for themselves so about 61 the second most common way was they got it from their partner about 42 percent of people got it that way and oddly seven percent got it from a family member and again similar to the data that we already knew the large majority of women use vibrators for fun about a quarter of them said they didn't have a partner at the time time about a third of them wanted to make it easier for themselves to reach orgasm a third of them used it to spice up their sex life and a little over a quarter used it because their partner wanted them to so in a partnered relationship only 45 women used it for reasons that were sort of negative one was because their spouse had been deployed one was because they had a high sex drive and their partner didn't enjoy having sex with them as frequently as they'd like they didn't enjoy having sex with their partner or they didn't feel safe about having sex with their partner or they were in a sexless marriage a small subset of women also used it to heal from sexual abuse and interestingly there were some that used it because their partner wouldn't have sex with them while they're pregnant now guys this is completely safe having sex during pregnancy is completely safe there's no reason not to have sex during pregnancy now in terms of using it with a partner of course the large majority felt really comfortable using the vibrator alone about 70 percent said that they felt comfortable using it with a partner now people who never used one one had a little less likelihood of feeling comfortable the vast majority of the group who used vibrators said that their partner knew they used one about 86 percent and the large majority of them actually were positive about their use only 6.5 percent of the entire group of people who were using vibrators their Partners didn't like that they used one of those women who didn't tell their partner most often it was just because they didn't feel like they had to now in general when looking at validated questionnaires that look at arousal orgasm lubrication they found that vibrator use was actually associated with scoring higher on those sections of Desire arousal lubrication and orgasm at an even bigger thing was that using a vibrator was a significant predictor of sexual satisfaction for heterosexual women as well as for bisexual women and interestingly the relationship was even more so when their partner knew they used a vibrator and they like that they use a vibrator so does this mean that women using a vibrator automatically have better sex or have more satisfying sex no I think a lot likely it's because these women who are using a vibrator and feel comfortable telling their partner are more likely to feel like well their partner accepts them for their pleasure and appreciates their pleasure and then that makes them feel more intimate and connected with their partner and they may also feel comfortable enough to actually talk about things like their other interests or fantasies or what they want to do during partnered sex whether it's bringing a vibrator into the bedroom or not now you may be wondering well that's the female's perspective what about the male's perspective would I bring up the use of vibrator toys in the bedroom a lot of my patients get a little nervous I think it's important to talk about this because it can really enhance your sex life another study that I looked at was done to look at primarily the man's perception of the vibrator used on their pleasure as well as their partner's pleasure and satisfaction action with sex now this study is a little bit unique because it recruited couples at a sex show so these people are probably interested in sex more ambitious more adventurous so take us with a grain of salt in this study the people who recruited had to be in a heterosexual relationship for at least a month and be willing to try a very specific vibrator now they got a special type of Arbor that was c-shaped and basically it was worn during penetrative intercourse it was placed on the female with one part of the sea in the vagina but it still allowed penetration and so you could feel vibrations both externally for the female and internally and for the male as well and the big selling point they said was hands-free right you don't need to be doing anything with your hands because the vibrator does all the work and you don't need to actually be playing with the vibrator moving the vibrator it sort of does everything for you these couples were then asked to have penetrative intercourse three times like normal and then they were asked to use the vibrator six times and women were also asked to masturbate with the sex toy six times to become more familiar with the device overall they had about 49 couples who completed the questionnaires and participated in the study so the average age of these men was about 40 years old and the majority were heterosexual and Caucasian all of them were in a serious committed relationship with just one person and the length of time there with that partner was about 10 years and these people were generally having almost 10 episodes of sex over the course of four weeks so when looking at how men felt about it they said overall this was really a great addition to their already satisfying sexual experiences so these are people who already had really great sexual experiences and they found that using the vibrator brought additional pleasure 14 however said it didn't really add any pleasure and three percent were like I don't want to use this after the study's done so when they interviewed these people they found generally four themes one was how it felt for physical pleasure how they began to appreciate their partner's pleasure how it added novelty and variety and lastly Intimacy in terms of physical pleasure it allowed for New Sensations that generally felt good they had more intense and more high intensity orgasms and they liked that they were hand free while some small steps that a man on the other hand didn't really like the vibrating Sensations and felt that they were too strong and some of them actually thought the device was too big to then also incorporate their penis during sex which then resulted in some chafing in terms of appreciating their partner's pleasure the large majority really liked that it increased the sexual pleasure of their partner and because their partner was having a more pleasurable time that also improved their experience of pleasure in terms of novelty and variety it's pretty self-explanatory having this vibrator was kind of a more fun sexual experience it was a sort of new and exciting and even added sort of a variety of anticipation like oh I'm excited for this this is going to be something new something that I've never done before and lastly it also cause increased intimacy they liked that they could share this experience with their partner some of them even like they could try and simultaneously orgasm with their partner which is not very common just to let you know this is not something that's common even though we see it a lot in the media it's very unlikely that you and your partner are going to orgasm at the same exact moment at the same exact time it's not like an on and off switch now again as I mentioned before this study is kind of you know to be taken with a grain of salt this is probably people who are more sex positive because they're attending a sex toy conference right and they already a lot of these people who were in the study already used sex toys at home and these couples were together for a really long time and were generally very satisfied in their relationships when you take away from this well I think ultimately if you're open to it adding a vibrator either for yourself or with your partner can be an extremely rewarding and beneficial experience we know that for women increases their arousal their desire their orgasm rate all sorts of things that can be improving that for their pleasure but now we also see at least in a small subset of people that it can be really enhancing to your sex life and it can add novelty and it can you know be a nice addition to 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