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Urologist explains why you might perform better during masturbation vs. sex

are you having troubles getting off in the bedroom but you're not having issues when you masturbate well guess what you're not alone I'm Dr Rina Malek urologist and pelvicion and today I'm going to explain to you how common this is and why we think this might be happening first off let me tell you that this video is not to shame anybody for masturbating I think masturbating can be a very healthy expression of self-love and can be very pleasurable for many people there are a lot of myths surrounding masturbation which I have debunked in a previous video so make sure you check that one out if you have questions about it interestingly this issue has been studied in evidence-based literature and so the first day looks specifically at men and later I'm going to talk about how this affects women over 4 000 men who were recruited from either Hungary or the United States via social media or online forums so keep in mind that probably people who participated in this survey had to have some interest in sexual health or some reason they wanted to take the survey this was a 55 question survey and the first part we looked at kind of basic demographic information where you're from what kind of city do you live in are you in a rural area so on and so forth a little bit about medical history and sexual history as well as sort of Lifestyle behaviors and then specifically how frequently were people masturbating and having partnered sex and what their interest in sex was the second part specifically looked at erectile and ejaculatory function specifically three conditions erectile dysfunction or the ability to have a firm enough erection that's sufficient for penetrative intercourse premature ejaculation or ejaculation that occurs before you or your partner desires and then delayed ejaculation or ejaculation that takes longer than you or your partner desire and this was done by using validated questionnaires these are surveys that have been studied in tons and tons of people these are good questions to assess for the presence of these conditions so interestingly people who had either moderate and severe erectile dysfunction or probable or definite premature ejaculation had significantly Less Problems during masturbation than they did during partnered sex with delayed ejaculation this problem was almost completely resolved in masturbation compared to partnered sex and so why does this happen so there are three reasons for this one is that of course partnered sex may offer some more challenges things like expectations or what your partner is thinking of you or attraction factors all play into the equation which don't often play into the occasion with masturbation number two masturbation may actually reduce the problem because you can use different types of stimulation during masturbation that allow you to achieve longer lasting erections lastly men may actually look at their sexual problems differently when they're masturbating versus when they're having partnered sex for example they may not really be bothered if they ejaculate quickly or take a long time to ejaculate because there's no expectations involved and so these problems may be less distressing or less bothersome this is really important particularly if you're suffering with this problem at home and you're having you know you're satisfied during masturbation but you're struggling with Partners like have an open discussion with your partner about what's going on with you and how you can maybe incorporate the things you do during masturbation into partnered sex now your partner shouldn't feel threatened by this this is just a way to have a better experience for everyone involved and I think that having discussion not in the bedroom in a place where you can have this discussion easily can be really helpful also getting help so if you need help with this certainly seek out a sex therapist or a couples therapist that can maybe help you go through this discussion together all right let's move on to women this same group looked at 2 000 women asking them a similar sexual habits survey specifically looking at how long it took them to orgasm with partnered versus self or masturbation sex and so what they found was that partnered sex took significantly longer than masturbation to reach orgasm the average amount was about 14 minutes with partnered sex whereas masturbation took about eight minutes so when looking at the percent of women in both of those groups who did not reach orgasm in partnered sex was about 15 whereas during masturbation that went down to as low as three percent so that was a pretty big difference and the reasons for this we think are because the goals of masturbation and the goals of partnered sex are generally different masturbatory sex is for pleasure and in essentially reaching orgasm whereas partnered sex is for intimacy trust and both giving and receiving pleasure and in another study they found that women who masturbated and took the techniques they used during masturbation for example clitoral stimulation being a very common one and incorporate that in their partnered sex had more intense orgasms and had a more satisfied sex life so if your partner is masturbating or if you're a woman who masturbates make sure you take the things that you drink restoration and share them with your partner and incorporate them into your partnered sex because it will lead to overall a better quality of sex for both people involved bottom line is if you're having no issues during masturbation but you're having trouble in the bedroom you have to talk about it figure out what's going on that's different during masturbation that you can't replicate during partnered sex and work on that or it may mean that sometimes during masturbation you're getting a really high level of stimulation whether it's physical stimulation or visual stimulation that's actually making it more difficult for you to find partnered sex as enjoyable so it may mean hey we need to lay off those things or incorporate some variety during masturbation so that partnered sex is still enjoyable to our brains as always if you enjoy this content please make sure to subscribe and share this Channel with your friends I also want to share this really great membership I just signed up for it's called Mind Valley you can take a ton of courses including improving your relationships improving your brain improving your focus improving your entrepreneurial things so there's so much there if you want to check it out I've got a link down in the description below make sure to check it out and let me know what you think as always everyone take care of yourself because you're worth it [Music]

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